APEX Volunteer Drive and Social: August 11th, 2017

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APEX is focusing some efforts into getting YOU more involved in our club.

Tonight is a great opportunity to do that.

We will share with you our structure, ways you can participate, and things you can do to put your stamp on your club.

This is a social occasion. You will get some information, meet some people, and learn more about the Arizona Power Exchange, the Valley’s Premier source of BDSM Education, Social Opportunities, Support, and fun!

OPEN TO ALL APEX MEMBERS.
You must be an APEX (or reciprocal) member in order to attend an APEX party. This is legal stuff, sorry all! You can learn more about being a Member of the Arizona Power Exchange on our Membership Page.

Please RSVP HERE. (Not Required for attendance)

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Did you know? APEX Supports all members of the community with Special Interest Groups

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Special Interest Group (S.I.G.):

A Special Interest Group is for members of the BDSM Community who share a common interest that come together to talk, share, and support one another. Keeping with the Arizona Power Exchange mission of support, APEX provides space to these discussion groups free of charge, and membership in the club is not required.

There are currently Five (5) Special Interest Groups at APEX:

Polyamory
First Saturday of the Month at 3pm

Polyamory is having multiple loving relationships. Polyamory is allowing those you love to also have multiple loving relationships. Polyamory is conducting these relationships in an open, honest, ethical way.

For any and all interested in all aspects of Polyamory, join us as we learn more about polyamory, discuss topics relevant to polyamory, and meet other polyamorous people from O/our Community.

LGBTQ+
Third Sunday of the month at 11am

Calling all Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender/Transsexual, Queer & Questioning Kinky Folks! If you are seeking a group of like-minded individuals to laugh, share, and discuss the often unique challenges and joys we encounter in this lifestyle, please join us at APEX the third Sunday of the month from 11am to 1pm.

Each month we will grow and develop our community within the Community. If you identify as LGBTQ, or are a partner and friend of someone whom identifies as LGBTQ then please join us as we facilitate this Special Interest Group.

FEMALE LED AUTHORITY EXCHANGE RELATIONSHIPS (FLAER)
Third Wednesday of the Month at 7:15pm

This group is a discussion group for women who lead or are in charge of relationships and/or dynamics associated with the BDSM/Fetish/Kinky lifestyles.

It is for those that are genetically born female, those who identify mentally or emotionally as female and their slaves, submissives, boys, girls, pets, etc.

The group will meet monthly to support, share and discuss the successes, challenges and ideas as it relates to female led relationships or dynamics in a confidential and relaxed environment.

DOM ROUNDTABLE
Fourth Wednesday of the month at 7pm

This is a discussion group for those identifying as Mistress, Maam, Mommy, Master, Top, Dom, Sir or Daddy.

For our current month topic, please keep your eyes on the APEX Group at Fetlife.com , or on the APEX website.

We encourage the long timers and the new generation of kinksters to join us in a relaxed and confidential atmosphere for discussions about your challenges, successes and ideas.

SUBMISSIVE CIRCLE
Fourth Wednesday of the month at 7pm

A free for all discussion with the focus and attention on different topics each month.

Join us for tea and cookies and a relaxed atmosphere to engage your mind and Spirituality.

Open to subs, slaves, bottoms and those who will maintain this “sub” space during the discussions.

For our current month topic, please keep your eyes on the APEX Group at Fetlife.com , or on the APEX website.


If you are interested in any of these discussion groups, please check our calendar for the schedule. Anyone over 18 who shares an interest with the group may attend.

If you are an APEX Member interested in facilitating a S.I.G. that is not currently represented, please email Support@ArizonaPowerExchange.org

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About APEX:

The Arizona Power Exchange (APEX) is a not-for-profit corporation that provides education, social opportunities, and support for adults who are interested in Bondage and Discipline; Dominance and Submission; and Sadomasochism (BDSM) who value individual responsibility, integrity, confidentiality, and respect for self and others. APEX provides on-going forums for education and practice of BDSM and opportunities for like-minded individuals to socialize, explore and learn in a respectful and dignified environment. APEX welcomes all sexual orientations, consensual relationships, and risk-aware BDSM and sexual practices.

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What to Expect at a Saturday Night Party

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APEX has party every Saturday night (providing it doesn’t fall ON a holiday we are typically closed) that is open to every current member of the club.

When you arrive you will be greeted by a Door Volunteer (don’t forget to thank them for volunteering!) and checked in. Grab a name tag. We offer name tags that include space to write your name and your preferred pronouns. Help people to successfully interact with you by letting them know your preferences!

After the housekeeping is done, most people move on to the kitchen. Like in our homes, the kitchen is the hub of activity at APEX. If you have brought a share-food to the party, you can put that out when you arrive. Except for special events (watch our Fetlife.com group and the Calendar for special events) party attendees are responsible for managing the food spread.  Helping clean up as we go makes a big difference!

If you need to drop off your toy bag there are racks to store them in both the Voyeur Room (just North of the front office) and also the vestibule that leads to the play floor (just North of the kitchen).

There are typically lots of people talking and socializing in the kitchen. As always, the best advice is to just jump in and enjoy the company of members close to you. At parties, maintaining situational awareness is important. If a big group of people is talking, just jump in and introduce yourself. If people have their heads together and are quietly talking, best to leave them be.

Remember, for some people, their “scene” begins when they arrive (or leave the house, or finish dinner), so they aren’t being rude, they are just doing their thing!

You can go to any of the Voyeur spaces to watch what is going on.  We encourage you to walk around and have a look, it is one of the most special things about having APEX parties! Please be mindful when you are watching scenes. Example…there is no reason to open the doors upstairs to watch (glass doors), and when you enter a space make sure you aren’t interrupting a scene.

For tips on how to be a non-interfering spectator read this. 

If you want to play, you can just ask (Click Here To Read More About How To Ask). Your DM can help you find space, give you tips on setting up based on your play choices, and help you with cleaning when you are finished. Remember, our DM’s are there to help make sure you and everyone else has the best time possible. They are a resource, and don’t be afraid to ask for help!

Before you go, please help clean up. A run through the kitchen or bathrooms is very helpful for those volunteers who have to stay until 2am. If you are there late, ask the closing DM how you can help them get out of there.

Parties are the cornerstone of the APEX Social structure, and being a great member includes being a part of your club. To read more about how to volunteer, click here.

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Did you know…About APEX Education?

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Did you know there are lots of educational programs at APEX, making up more than 200 events each year?

 

Monday’s: On Monday Nights (since 1997) we have some sort of Educational Event. Class, Demo, Lecture, Hands-On, Panel Discussion, Community Education, and even an occasional open house. Some of these are open to everyone over 18 because APEX feels as though Education is important for all parts of the Phoenix Community!  These educational events are generally facilitated by APEX Members, or an occasional out of town presenter. If you are interested in presenting please email: Mondays@ArizonaPowerExchange.org

E.D.G.E. Groups:  Extended Development, Growth, & Education (E.D.G.E.). An E.D.G.E. group is made up of APEX members who all share a common interest in learning, teaching, and developing skills. This is a peer-to-peer learning environment that facilitates practice and sharing knowledge in a particular area. There are currently 12 E.D.G.E. Groups at APEX: Safer Sex, Makers, Pets, Rope 101, Leather Care, Floggers, Impact Play, Drums, Bound to Tie, Medical Play, Presenting, and Photography.

E.D.G.E. Groups are open to all APEX members who would like to join. If you are interested in beginning an E.D.G.E. group, please e-mail Education@ArizonaPowerExchange.org

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Weekend Workshops/Intensive’s: Are generally out of town presenters who do a variety of classes throughout the weekend. Sometimes it is on a single subject, sometimes it is separate classes. These are all structured differently, and attention should be paid to the schedule and pricing.  If you have a weekend workshop/intensive you would like to share with the APEX Membership please email: Education@ArizonaPowerExchange.org

Preparty Workshops: Preparty Workshops are designed to teach you some skills you can use tonight at the party! A fun and interactive environment where we can all sharpen our skills together! This is not a classroom environment-no lectures here! These are interactive and high energy sessions so you can get ready to party! You may attend the preparty workshop for an additional fee, but it is included in your party entrance fee. Like most programming Preparty Workshops are offered at no additional costs for All Access Members.

APEX 101: Skills: The APEX 101 series is an introduction to specific skills. Come learn the basics of these skills. These classes are for beginners, those new to a particular kind of play, or someone wanting a ‘sampling’ of the possibilities and intended to make you comfortable with the general premise of the chosen fetish.

The APEX 101 series is designed to be a fun and interactive environment. You will get an overview of the evening, and then you can spend your time learning about the things you are interested in! This is an opportunity to ask questions, see up close how things work and in some cases even try those things!

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APEX 202: Skills: Welcome to the next phase of your evolution. You may have taken the 101, or maybe you’ve watched other people do it, or you’ve even tinkered a bit yourself.

At the  APEX 202’s you will practice a variety of techniques, and a wider exposure will allow you to take your skills to the next level! The APEX 202 series are designed to be a fun and interactive environment. You will get an overview of the evening, and then you can spend your time doing the things you are interested in! This is sometimes also an opportunity to see many different ways to do what we do, and decide which one is right for you! This is an opportunity to ask questions, see up close how things work, and most importantly, PRACTICE!

For questions please email: Education@ArizonaPowerExchange.org
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APEX 303: Skills: Continue your Education with the APEX 303’s. The APEX 303 is designed to provide an advanced education on various topic. Everyone is welcome, but often the skills are advanced and some basic knowledge is required. Each event will call out what you will want to know or possess ahead of time. For questions please email: Education@ArizonaPowerExchange.org

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Keep your eyes on our webpage, Fetlife.com, Facebook.com, and Twitter.com for more information about the value APEX brings to our community!

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Ways to Volunteer at APEX

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APEX is entirely staffed by volunteers. Whatever you are interested in doing, we certainly need your help!

The list below includes training opportunities, volunteer opportunities, and ways you can pitch in based on the time you have available.

Minimum Time Commitment

(Single day commitments) 

Pitch in when you come to the club. You can always clean up, grab a broom, take out the trash, bring ice, clean up the kitchen, straighten up the bathrooms while you’re in there, or just look for things needing done and do them. 🙂

Keep your eye on the APEX Group on Fetlife.com. There are often calls for spare hands to do big setups and other projects at the club!

Glass Cleaning: All the windows/doors at the front of the space need to be cleaned, and all of the mirrors need to be polished.

Trash Cans: Need to be taken outside once a month and cleaned inside and out.

Ash tray: Needs to be emptied once each month and new sand put in.

Outside: Both the parking lot in front of our building and the alley behind our space needs to be swept and picked up.

Tablecloths: Need to be washed once a week.

Other laundry: Pillows and throws need to be washed once a month.

Supplies: Someone to keep track of supplies including things like coffee and paper products so we never run out!

Space Improvement:  Usually one Saturday each month.  We clean, do projects, restock. Space improvement is from 10am-2pm. While it is usually on the first Saturday of the month, keep your eye on the calendar because changes sometimes need to happen.

Party DM Shifts: DM Shifts are from 7:30pm-10:30pm 10pm-12:30am, and 12:00am-2:00am. While you need to attend training, it is an important way to participate!  There is a DM Training each month. Take a look at the APEX Calendar forDM Training or email DMCoordinator@ArizonaPowerExchange.org.

Door Shifts: Every APEX event needs someone to do the door and handle orientations. Door shifts on weekdays are typically 6:15pm-8:00pm. Parties are from 7:30pm-11pm. Working the door is a great way to meet people! There is a Door Training each month. Take a look at the APEX Calendar for Door Training or email DoorCoordinator@ArizonaPowerExchange.org.

Moderate Commitment (3-5 Hours each week)

Facebook Events (click to see details)

We want to have a larger presence on Facebook, which will include Facebook events. While it will be a large time commitment to begin, it will level out to just a few hours each week you can do from home! For more information email Tess@ArizonaPowerExchange.org

 

 

More Significant Commitment (5-8 Hours Each Week)

Social Opportunities Chair  (click to see details) 

Whose functions include: Parties, non-play social activities

The APEX Social Opportunities Chair is responsible for the management, logistics and support of all social based activities of APEX.  The Social chair is tasked with appointing coordinators as needed, and supporting their team members as needed.  The chair is also tasked with ensuring that all areas of social opportunities are operating smoothly, and to make adjustments to procedures, activities, or events as needed.  Finally the social opportunities chair is responsible for the development and implementation of new social opportunities and ideas for the benefit of the club and its members.

As APEX continues to grow and evolve to meet the challenges of social media, internet availability and outside groups, it becomes important for APEX to establish a sense of connection and belonging for its membership.  This can be accomplished with the development of social programs within the larger organization, essentially establishing a comfort level within the larger “Community Center” structure. These offerings help new and old members establish a sense of intimacy and provide a sanctuary within the larger club, so that we retain those members after their desired level of ‘education’ has been completed.

This Chair works with their Coordinators and marketing individuals to direct inquiries to the appropriate groups for new and old members expressing a desire to participate, and will actively provide support to membership efforts with marketing of social opportunities to new members. Each month the Chair will provide a written report of activities at the Executive Committee Meeting as well as plans for development, and should be able to provide a report of activities within the Social functions regarding attendance and growth needs.

Skillsets for the Chair for Social Opportunities include excellent communication skills, diplomacy, team-building, and creativity.  This person should be relatively active on Fetlife to monitor the various emerging interests within the community and should be able to work with a wide variety of populations, so should be open-minded and comfortable with diversity.  A proven ability to follow-through in communication, and an awareness of marketing techniques is helpful in this position.  A friendly smile and warm personality will also go a long way when making members feel welcome and inviting them to find their own interests as they continue their journey of self-discovery.

Each month the Chair will check in and ensure plans and activities are being completed, will assist with facilitating any needs and meeting challenges that each of these individuals may be encountering and will provide a chain of command for the Executive Committee to communicate plans and direction with regard to a larger vision for APEX.

Specific time commitments are as follows: Attend the monthly Executive Committee Meeting (some absences are acceptable) and be active enough in the club to know if our Social functions are serving the needs of the Membership. When a coordinator is not present, the Social Opportunities Chair will step into this role ensuring that the club and membership needs are met. The Social Opportunities Chair will also make it a priority to find successors to each position and for themselves.

Education Chair  (click to see details) 

The APEX education chair is responsible for the management, logistics and support of all educational based activities of APEX.  The education chair is tasked with appointing coordinators as needed (Monday nights, Saturday workshops, etc), and supporting their team members as needed.  The chair is also tasked with ensuring that all areas of education are operating smoothly, and to make adjustments to procedures, activities, or events as needed.  Finally the education chair is responsible for the development and implementation of new educational opportunities and ideas for the benefit of the club and its members.

As an organization continues to grow and evolve to meet the challenges of social media, internet availability and member associated gatherings such as munches, it becomes important for an organization to establish a sense of connection and belonging for its membership.  This can be accomplished with the development of programs within the larger organization, essentially establishing small, intimate groups where ideas can be shared, discussed and learned from each participant.  These groups help new and old members establish a sense of intimacy and provide a sanctuary within the larger club, so that in party and event settings there remains a sense of belonging and a comfort in growing and expanding.

This Chair works with their Coordinators and marketing individuals to direct inquiries to the appropriate groups for new and old members expressing a desire to know more about a function, and will actively provide support to membership efforts with marketing of new support functions to new members. Each month the Chair will provide a written report of activities at the Executive Committee Meeting as well as plans for development, and should be able to provide a report of activities within the Education function regarding attendance and growth needs.

Skillsets for the Chair for Education include:  Excellent communication skills, diplomacy, team-building, and creativity.  This person should be relatively active on Fetlife to monitor the various emerging interests within the community and should be able to work with a wide variety of populations, so should be open-minded and comfortable with diversity.  A proven ability to follow-through in communication, and an awareness of marketing techniques is helpful in this position.  A friendly smile and warm personality will also go a long way when making new members feel welcome and inviting them to find their own interests as they continue their journey of self-discovery.

Each month the Chair will check in and ensure plans and activities are being completed, will assist with facilitating any needs and meeting challenges that each of these individuals may be encountering and will provide a chain of command for the Executive Committee to communicate plans and direction with regard to a larger vision for APEX.

Specific time commitments are as follows: Attend the monthly Executive Committee Meeting (some absences are acceptable) and be active enough in the club to know if our Education functions are serving the needs of the Membership. When a coordinator is not present, the Education Chair will step into this role ensuring that the club and membership needs are met. The Education Chair will also make it a priority to find successors to each position and for themselves.

APEX will also have spaces open on the Executive Committee this year.  The time commitment varies, but you need to be prepared to be at the club at least one day a week, and there’s lots of business in the mean time.

 

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How to Ask Someone To Play

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You can make asking someone to play very complex, but really it is fairly easy. There are a number of ways to go about this, and here we will offer some tips and approaches to help you.

The most important thing is to make sure that you are honest about your experience. Please don’t think that being new or inexperienced takes you out of the play pool, quite the opposite! New folks get the most play because they are willing to ASK!

We live and die by our reputations, and exaggerating your experience will not get you very far. An experienced top or bottom will know if you have exaggerated your experience, and word travels, so be honest, and set your partner(s) expectations appropriately. It is perfectly acceptable to say “I have never done this before, but I would like to try it”, or “Hey, I just got a new X and I would like to get great at it, want to help me?”.

Approaching people can be intimidating, but remember…at APEX “No” only means “No”. Learning to hear “No” in a positive and constructive way is one of the best lessons we receive at APEX.  It is important that we accept that as a final answer and move on. We don’t coerce, cajole, or intimidate people into doing what we want at APEX. That is predatory behavior that is not acceptable. Hear “No” as unequivocal and final. The absence of “No” is not “Yes”. Only “Yes” means “Yes”.  Consent is the most important thing that we do at APEX, and each of us is responsible for obtaining consent.

Once you obtain agreement or interest in principle, it is important that you negotiate the boundaries of consent. If you have attended APEX 101: Communication and Negotiation, you have the tools to do this. If not, make sure you take the class, or get a Lifeguard or Spotter to help you negotiate. This is a person who has a bit more experience who is willing to help you ask good questions and explore your answers so you and your partner(s) are getting informed and enthusiastic consent for your scene.  Most members of the club are willing to do this, so find yourself a Lifeguard!

It is important when you negotiate that you ask how someone prefers to negotiate. For some people negotiations are part of the scene and they have a ritualized way of negotiating. If that isn’t your cup of tea it is perfectly OK, and you can just take a pass. That means you aren’t compatible. NO problem! For some people they prefer negotiations in writing, or outside of a play environment, or any number of other things.  Before you negotiate, you have to agree HOW you will negotiate.

So, if you are new to the club, new to BDSM, or new to APEX…lots of people will be willing to help you find your way. Be honest, learn from other members, and most importantly…have fun!

 

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Being a Non-Interfering Spectator

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While parties are just a small portion of what APEX does,  our behavior and consideration for other members is very important for the enjoyment of everyone attending.

Being a voyeur is a lovely way to enjoy what it is we do at APEX, but it is important that we do so in a way that does not interfere with the enjoyment of other members around us.

All of this information is from the APEX orientation. If you aren’t confident about APEX rules or etiquette, feel free to watch the video again at any time the room is not in use.

Some Guidelines to Being a Non-Interfering Spectator:

  • Stay out of play space if you are not scening, setting up to scene, or have been invited to participate (No it is not acceptable to ask someone to watch up close once they are on the play floor).
  • It is never acceptable to interrupt another member’s scene.
  • If you are uncomfortable with something that you are watching, please take responsibility, and remove yourself from the situation.
  • If you have a concern with the safety of someone else’s scene, please take it to the Dungeon Monitor on duty, and not the players.
  • Silence your cell phone, and if light pollution is an issue, dim the screen.
  • Don’t point your cell phone camera at people.
  • Keep your conversations to a low volume to prevent interfering with scenes near you.
  • Keep a reasonable distance from scenes.
  • Commentary on another member’s play without being asked, either complimentary or critical is always inappropriate.
  • Remember, scenes take priority over socializing. Keep socializing to social spaces.

It takes all of us to make APEX the special place it has come to be. Please be mindful and considerate of other members, and make sure to help other members as well. If someone forgets something, gently and politely remind them. If someone reminds you of something you have forgotten, thank them for making sure you are being the best member you can be!

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July 8th Party: Important Notice about Parking

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As you may have heard our parking lot is going to be resurfaced on July 8th, and we can’t drive on it until Sunday. So, the generous folks at the big white building to the South of us, have agreed to let us use their parking lot.

Walking on the pavement after 6 PM is allowed, and wheeled toy bags should be fine. We do have permission – for the night of July 8th only – to park around the building to the southeast of APEX (the area outlined in yellow on the map). Otherwise, you’ll need to park on the street (the purple shading).

If you are coming to the party and willing to help direct traffic that would be amazing! Email us at contact@arizonapowerexchange.org and we will put you on the schedule. There will be frozen treats for the volunteers who are out in the heat!

We will need help from 7:30pm-11pm when the doors close.

[Fetlife.com Party Event][https://fetlife.com/events/542414]

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CELEBRATING THE APEX MOVE!

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Let’s Celebrate- APEX has been in our new space for 1 Year!

It has been a year since we moved to the new space, and wow have things changed!

In honor of the occasion we are going to do some fun things to celebrate what we all accomplished together.

  • We will have BBQ and some fun sweet treats
  • Some new furniture will make an appearance
  • Some AMAZING new things will be added to our space as a fun surpise for members
  • We will run a slide show of some of the changes and things we have accomplished this year
  • A photo opportunity to commemorate the occasion

This is one of those events that will be talked about all year, don’t miss out!

Watch the APEX Group on FetLife for the buzz about weekly parties, who is bringing what, and what our friends are planning!

Please bring a food item to share. A six-pack of soda would also be appreciated. Water and ice will be provided.

OPEN TO ALL APEX MEMBERS.

You must be an APEX (or reciprocal) member in order to attend an APEX party. This is legal stuff, sorry all! You can learn more about being a Member of the Arizona Power Exchange on our Membership Page http://www.arizonapowerexchange.net/membership/.

$15 for Pay Per Event Members, FREE for All Access Members

While we will remain open until 2am, the doors will close at 11pm so our Volunteers can enjoy the party as well. If you can’t get there before 11pm, please make special arrangements via email: Contact@ArizonaPowerExchange.org

*Please note: You must be a member at least 24 hours PRIOR to this event to attend. No orientations will be done at this event.

Fetlife.com RSVP HERE (Not Required for attendance)

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Drum Circle

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Typically, people gather to drum in drum “circles” with others from the surrounding community. The drum circle offers equality because there is no head or tail. It includes people of all ages. The main objective is to share rhythm and get in tune with each other and themselves. To form a group consciousness. To entrain and resonate. By entrainment, I mean that a new voice, a collective voice, emerges from the group as they drum together. -Grateful Dead drummer Mickey Hart 

Drumming has been integral part of tribal culture. Drums provide the basic rhythm to most music. A drum circle brings community together through rhythm. Drum circles allow people to express themselves in a fun safe environment. Drumming increases concentration and focus, helps develop communication skills and encourages people to listen and dance. We will explore hand drumming techniques for drums such as the Djembe, Sabar etc. Learn how to play bass, open tone and slap notes. Bring your own drums. We will have a few drums available if you have never played. This will be hands-on… literally.

Join us on the 4th Saturday of each month at 6pm

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