Get A Room!


Covid-19 has changed things so much, and we wanted to find a way to get people back into the space that keeps members and volunteers safe. So, we would like to introduce you to the beginning of our limited operations plan. At this time, Get A Room! is being rolled out to our Annual All Access Members.

APEX has six (6) play rooms where doors can be closed. On Saturday evenings we will allow those six (6) rooms to be reserved by our All Access Members for play.

For details about how to reserve a room or how it works Visit:

All Access Paid in Full Members can renew on the Payment Gateway.

All Access Paid Monthly Members may email to renew.


Welcome to pride month


Phoenix Pride is generally in April in Arizona because of the weather. However, our Pride Festival had to postpone due to Covid-19. Phoenix Pride has announced the rescheduled dates for the 40th Annual Phoenix Pride Festival and Parade, with the Festival now set to run Saturday and Sunday, November 7-8, 2020, with the Parade moving to Saturday, November 7. Please commit to the rescheduled Phoenix Pride Festival by buying your tickets early!

Honor your LGBTQ+ Community by educating yourself about the LGBTQ+ History:

LGBTQ History in Arizona

Bj Bud Memorial Archives

Arizona Queer Archives

Ways you can support the Phoenix LGBTQ+ Community:

Support your community today by making a tax-deductible donation to Phoenix Pride and the Phoenix Pride Community Foundation!

The Phoenix Pride Community Foundation funds the Phoenix Pride Scholarship Program, Phoenix Pride Community Grants Program and the Phoenix Pride Partnership Program. Your contribution will help Phoenix Pride continue its mission to celebrate and promote the history, diversity and future prosperity of the metropolitan Phoenix LGBTQ+ community. Together with our donors, Phoenix Pride awards approximately $100K in grants and scholarships almost every year. This money goes back into the metropolitan Phoenix LGBTQ+ community strengthening organizations and assisting individuals in order to further the cause of equality and create a more prosperous community for all.

Donate today to support scholarships for a LGBTQ+ students, or to support a nonprofit organization seeking grant contributions to continue their services to the Phoenix LGBTQ+ community. You can choose which Phoenix Pride Program you would like to support. 

Rainbow Crosswalks: We are looking to raise money to cover the cost of maintaining the two rainbow crosswalks in Phoenix, AZ. Any amount you can donate will help us in the maintenance of the existing crosswalks and installation of more locations! Donations through this web page will be restricted to the implementation and maintenance of the Rainbow Crosswalks in Phoenix, AZ. Learn more about Rainbow Crosswalks here.

To demonstrate our commitment to the LGBTQ+ Community, APEX will be posting resources and ways to support this month.

As you may know, APEX is currently closed due to the risk of Covid-19. However, in honor of Pride Month, APEX Members have sponsored an LGBTQ+ Scholarship to our club (once we are open). Stay tuned for scholarship and application information.


Discord: A Tutorial

FacebooktwitterAPEX Discord Server Info

Our community has started a Discord server to help keep connected during this time. Here is the basic run down.

-What is Discord?

Discord is a free platform that enables easy group chats, voice communications and more. Right now we are largely using it for text based chatting (with plenty of links, pics, memes etc.) with the occasional voice chat now and then.

-How do I use it? Phone? PC? Web?

Discord offers many options to access their platform. You can install an app on your computer, phone or tablet, or just use about any web browser without having to install anything at all! For those just starting out, having a larger screen and the PC app or web browser version may be easier to use at first – It is much easier to get to all the options, but you can also use it on the phone at the same time! If you need more in-depth information about getting started with Discord, you can view the official Discord getting start guide here:

-How do I join my APEX friends on Discord?

We use the private server option, so to join our server, you must use the invite link here:

If you already have a Discord account, it should add the APEX Server to your account – you will see an APEX logo on the left side of your client representing our server. If you do not already have a Discord account, you can easily create one after clicking on the invite link.

-Is it safe to use/post pics/share info?

While most people you find on Discord may be fellow APEX members, remember that Discord is not APEX, it is the Internet. We can’t control the Internet. We are unable to verify club membership, so carefully consider your risk/comfort level with sharing things online. Think of it this way, if you can follow these instructions to join our server, so could someone else!

-What if I want a different username than my normal Discord account? Should I get a new account?

Many users already have Discord for gaming or other social groups, but still want to keep everything on one account. Your username is visible to anyone who you connect with on Discord, so many users may not use their scene names. However, when you connect to a Discord server, you have the option of setting a “nickname” that is specific to that server. This allows you to use whatever name you want (and even add pronouns!) while being able to avoid potentially uncomfortable new conversation topics with your friends or family.

-Ok, I’m in! Now what?

By default you will be dropped into the Lobby. Here you can chat with others, share links, pictures, and more. You will find that all of our channels are marked “Not Safe For Work” and you will have to acknowledge that you are over 18 because of adult content. Since we have an ever expanding array of channels as varied as our membership, we have elected to make most of the channels “opt-in”.

So that you are able to self manage what channels you can see and access, we have setup a handy Apex Bot. This bot allows you to self-add Discord “roles” (think of permissions or access control system, not necessarily lifestyle roles) that will grant or remove access to channels without having to find someone to add or remove them for you.

The Apex Bot responds to commands that are sent as normal text messages in chat. All commands will start with an exclamation point – ! For example, to opt-in to the very popular APEX channels, type !apex and hit send. Apex Bot will then grant you the APEX role (it should respond with a message) and new channels will be available for you to chat in. There is also a !help command to find out all about the commands the bot has available.

We have also setup an entire “Kinky Fun” category of channels for those craving even more specific chat channels and topics. You can use the !kinkyfun command to quickly turn them all on. From here, you will find an ever expanding and changing list of channels based on informal user feedback and engagement. If there is way more than you are interested in, or you are only interested in specific channels, you can use the !vanilla command to remove kinkyfun.

If you wish to only have specific channels in the Kinky Fun category, you can not have kinkyfun role enabled – that turns all the channels on. There are commands to add or remove roles so you only have to see what channels you want to see. For the most fine tuned controls, try the !help selfrole command.

As of this writing there are a number of commands we have added to make adding and removing these self roles a little easier. Apex Bot refers to these as aliases, so for a current listing you can use the !alias list command to see what is currently setup.

For example, these commands add / remove individual channels:
!apex / !noapex — The Apex channels! (you probably want this)
!blood / !noblood — Blood play
!bootblacking / !nobootblacking — Boot blacking
!cigar / !nocigar — The League of the Leaf
!code / !nocode — Code, programming, computers…
!gaming / !nogaming — For the gamers
!little / !nolittle — Littles
!memes / !nomemes — The very popular memes channel
!music / !nomusic — Tunes!
!nsfw / !nonsfw — Another popular channel
!recipes / !norecipes — Recipes, cooking, FOOD
!rope / !norope — Gotta have a rope channel
!toys / !notoys — Toys, tools and fun

There are a few roles you can set that do not come with any channels or Discord authority but are there for you to show how you support our club. You can have all or none of them set as you choose, its up to you!

!dms — For DMs
!door — For Door
!orientation — Orientation team
!volunteer — We <3 our volunteers!

Sometimes new channels are setup before aliases, or things may move around, so if there isn’t an alias that works, you can always use !selfrole list to see all the options Apex Bot can grant you.

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How to take advantage of virtual classes: A tutorial


During this time of uncertainty, APEX is working hard to find ways to bring us together for education and fellowship. We are having 3-5 Virtual Events each week!

We know learning new technology is challenging, and some of you may be hesitant, so here is a tutorial so you can feel confident about participating. If you would prefer, you can also download a PDF.

How To Get the Login


All Access Members may email the Virtual Door Person from posting up to class time at:, with their legal name, member number, phone number, and email address. (the last two are to verify who is IN the meeting)

  • The Virtual Door Person will verify your membership is current. If you need to renew you can visit our Temporary Remote Payment Gateway here:
  • If your membership is current, we will send you details for the Virtual Class to include some terms and conditions, and technical instructions for logging in or dialing in.

The Instructions Include the Agreements, Links to Zoom Tutorials, and your class details.

The Agreements

By attending this class, you are agreeing to similar things that our in-person classes require of you.

This class may only be viewed by the member to whom the login was given. Link sharing or allowing access to anyone else is a violation of your agreement.



By staying in this meeting, you agree to the above terms. This video will be watermarked, and this disclaimer will exist throughout the meeting.

Some APEX Specific Class Settings

Video and Audio

You will be added to the meeting with your video off and audio muted. You can turn on these things anytime.

The Waiting Room

Once you have entered the meeting room, you wil be in the “waiting room” where those email addressed you gave us will be authenticated, and then you will be let into the meeting when it is time. If you join a meeting late, you may need to wait a few minutes to be authenticated because the “host” is working the meeting. We will let you in, don’t worry!

What the Class Login information looks like


Topic: Heavy Metal Bondage

Time: Mar 30, 2020 07:30 PM Arizona

Join Zoom Meeting

Meeting ID: 797 574 511

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        +1 669 900 6833 US (San Jose)

        +1 346 248 7799 US (Houston)

        +1 301 715 8592 US

        +1 312 626 6799 US (Chicago)

        +1 929 436 2866 US (New York)

        +1 253 215 8782 US

Meeting ID: 797 574 511

Find your local number:

To Attend Via Phone-Just Audio

All you need to do is dial one of the numbers, or you can find a local number here:

To Attend Via Phone (Video)

If you are attending via your phone. You need to download the Zoom Cloud Meetings app (available on Google Play). Then you just need to click the link from the email confirmation, and it will open your meeting. Below are some directions to get started based on your phone.

If you are attending via your Apple Phone

If you are attending via your Android Phone

If you are on a work machine that won’t allow downloads

Participants who are unable to install the Zoom client on their computer or the Zoom app on their mobile device can join a meeting or webinar through their web browser. The Zoom web client offers limited functionality. Read more about the Web Client.

To read the Zoom article:

If you are joining via computer

You can just click on the link from your computer:

Join Zoom Meeting:

When you click on that link it will redirect you to Zoom. If you don’t already have the application on your computer, it will download it then.

Once your meeting is ready, you can make sure your speakers and microphone work.

On the bottom left you can turn on audio and video if you didn’t do it before you joined.

Participant Controls

For a Tutorial on what you can control IN the meeting, Zoom has a terrific set of instructions here:

In-Class Participation

Part of the reason we are doing these virtual classes is to keep us all connected. If you are comfortable, please feel free to join with video so our instructors and facilitators can see your smiling face.

While we have everyone join muted so that we can avoid tons of background noise and you can hear what’s happening, please feel free to unmute yourself to ask questions or participate! If you are more comfortable, you can raise your hand (see above for participant controls), or just type in chat that you have something to say. If your presenter is at APEX, chat is right in front of them on the projector, and they will see it.


APEX Virtual Programming Updated 4/6/2020


APEX is working hard to keep us all safe AND connected. Thanks to some dedicated members, we are adding a LOT of virtual programming for you. Below are some of the offerings happening, with more in the works every day!

If you would like some help understanding how Virtual Classes work, please see our Online Tutorial, or download the PDF.

Here’s what on the calendar so far:

3/23 Online Dating
3/24 Yoga for Bondage
3/25 Virtual SIG Dom Rountable
3/25 Virtual SIG Sub Circle
3/30 Heavy Metal Bondage
3/31 Has Kink Changed for you, if so how? Discussion
4/6 Flogging with Zither
4/9 Makers Group 4/10 Virtual Happy Hour 4/13 Worship in Relationships 4/14 Power from the Rope-Bottom up!

More are in the works! Keep your eyes on the APEX Calendar for additions and new offerings! Look for -Virtual Program- (always in red)


APEX Community Working Together Updated 5/7/2020



We realize in this difficult time, some of our reciprocal clubs do not have a mechanism for renewing their memberships. In light of that, APEX will be allowing Reciprocal Members to use their expired membership cards providing that those cards expired during the closure. This will change to needing a current membership card if those clubs create a way for those members to renew.

April 21st, 2020

In addition to the supplies we are gathering and distributing, APEX has announced a new Virtual Membership. If Members would like to donate a Virtual Membership, please go to the Payment Gateway and Choose “Gift”. Make your donation with a note for “Scholarship” and then send an email to: Processing times have become very slow, so letting us know it has been gifted is the fastest way to get it into the hands of those who need it.

If are over 18 and would like help to connect to the APEX Community through our Virtual Programs please complete the Virtual Membership Application. You will submit you application and scholarships will be awarded on a first-come-first-served basis as funds become available through member donations.

March 31st, 2020

We still have supplies if you need them! People are being VERY generous. Please send your needs, and your delivery or pick up preferences to

March 23rd, 2020

APEX still has supplies for you! Please reach out if you are short on groceries…we’re ready to help! Deliveries to your porch available. Email

March 20th, 2020

APEX has accumulated a handful of supplies, so if you need groceries please email We’ve also had some folks offering to deliver, so if that’s an issue, we have you covered.

March 18th Update

Some folks expressed wanting to create an emergency fund and we listened. If you would like to contribute to those members having a tough time, you can give a gift through our temporary portal here: Please make sure you put a note in the text field that you would like this to go to the Membership Emergency Fund, so we can be sure to apply it properly!  

We know everyone is struggling right now. Some people are challenged financially, others are challenged with food, supplies, child care. We’d like to coordinate helping if we can. Since we have this big and mostly empty space, how about we start a pantry? If you have any extra drop it off, and we can distribute to members who need it. 

Things that have been expressed that are needed: 

Goods and Sundries

  • Toilet Paper
  • Hand Sanitizer
  • Cleaning Wipes
  • Cleaning Products
  • Bleach
  • Laundry Stuff
  • Baby Stuff-Formula, Wipes, Diapers


  • Frozen Goods (if you have a big load of these, please reach out to Freezer Space is limited, but we have some options there!) 
  • Canned goods
  • Canned meat
  • Meals in a box kinds of things 


  • Someone willing to pick up supplies, prescriptions,  and groceries for vulnerable people if it is too much risk for them to go out. 
  • Babysitting. Some people have to go to work, and their children are out of school.  APEX does not want to broker that, but check in with your friends who are parents, who have children, who you know are still working.  If you are willing to provide child care, even for a limited time, speak up!

If you would like to drop off, you can do so at any time we are open. If you are a Prox Key holder you can drop off anytime 5pm-9pm.  You do not have to speak to anyone, you can just drop a bag in the front office and go. As we receive things, we will put a list up for claiming. Again, you can drop off at people’s doors, you do not need to actually come in contact. 

We wish everyone health and wellness. 


Updates ABOUT COVID-19 and APEX Updated 9/2/2020


2 September, 2020

APEX is diligently working to provide quality Virtual Programming to our Members. With almost 30 virtual offerings each month, we are creating an environment where we can all come together, even when we must be separated. Click here to View our Calendar.

Several Reciprocal clubs have begun to also do Virtual Memberships. We are doing everything we can to support them.

We are staying afloat because of our members being willing to renew their memberships even in this tough time for all. We appreciate each of you for your commitment to our space.

To Renew Your membership you can visit the payment gateway.

We have some exciting announcements coming up. Stay tuned!

7 May, 2020

We realize in this difficult time, some of our reciprocal clubs do not have a mechanism for renewing their memberships. In light of that, APEX will be allowing Reciprocal Members to use their expired membership cards providing that those cards expired during the closure. This will change to needing a current membership card if those clubs create a way for those members to renew.

21 April, 2020

In our ongoing effort to reach out and keep us connected, we are offering Virtual Memberships for any 18+ person in our Community for only $20.00. 

The Virtual Membership will be valid until May 31st with the option to renew if APEX must continue the closure beyond that date. You will have access to all the APEX Virtual Content through our Virtual Door Verification.

These are not traditional memberships for the brick and mortar club, but are access to all of our Virtual Programming. April included 26 events, and May is shaping up to be even more robust. 

How to Apply for Virtual Memberships:

Fill out the Virtual Membership Application. Take a picture of your government issued photo ID (that includes your birthday) and upload it to the form, and agree to the Terms of Service.

Within 24 hours we will approve your membership and send you an email to the digital gateway to pay your $20.00 fee.  While we would like to offer these classes for free, we have some legal constraints.  

 Then you just follow the process for Virtual Classes listed on our calendar. Your payment confirmation email will also include instructions.

Existing Members

We know closures have been financially challenging for some of our members, so existing Members who cannot renew their traditional membership at this time will ALSO have the option to use the $20.00 Virtual Membership.  Existing Members merely need to go to the Payment Gateway and pay their $20.00 and send an email to for confirmation.  While this membership is only valid during the closure, it can help our Members stay connected until things are more stable for all of us. 


If Members would like to donate a Virtual Membership, please go to the Payment Gateway and Choose “Gift”. Make your donation with a note for “Scholarship” and then send an email to: Processing times have become very slow, so letting us know it has been gifted is the fastest way to get it into the hands of those who need it.

If are over 18 and would like help to connect to the APEX Community through our Virtual Programs please complete the Virtual Membership Application. You will submit you application and scholarships will be awarded on a first-come-first-served basis as funds become available through member donations.

 Questions? Email

6 April, 2020

APEX is working hard on Virtual Programming, and we want to bring our Virtual Events to as many people as possible. APEX had had a goal for some time to allow Virtual Memberships and Virtual Classes, so in this time of challenge, where we want everyone to feel connected, we are offering our Virtual Program to all APEX Members as well as our Reciprocal Members in order to test our process, and make it better. At some stage in the future, we will finalize how we want to go forward with this program and work out costs etc, but while we all learn, the Virtual Program will be free and available to all kinds of members. Remember, even though we cannot be together, we are strong, and none of us is alone. 
APEX has always supported our Community with Support Events, and those Support events will continue to be available to the entire 18+ Community. 
Our goal is to have 3-4 Virtual Events each week, so if you are interested in presenting Virtually, please email We will be happy to have you! 
Here is how it works: 

CURRENT APEX Members may email the Virtual Door Person from posting up to class time (the earlier the better!) at:, with their legal name, member number, phone number, and email address. (the last two are to verify who is IN the meeting)

  • The Virtual Door Person will verify your membership is current. If you need to renew you can visit our Temporary Remote Payment Gateway here:
  • If you renew before class, please make a note of this in your email. It takes about 72 hours for those payments to get to us, but we can look them up prior if we know we are looking for them. 
  • If your membership is current (or we looked up your payment) we will send you details for the Virtual Class to include some terms and conditions, and technical instructions for logging in or dialing in (these are sent up to class time).
  • For a Tutorial on how this service works, you can view that here. 

Reciprocal Members may email the Virtual Door Person from posting up to class time (the earlier the better!) at:, with their legal name, member number, phone number, email address, and a photo of their Membership Card. 

  • Your membership card must show you current with your Reciprocal Club, and the Virtual Door person cannot call people, accept emails from people to ‘verify’ etc. Our Virtual Program is growing, and we just don’t have the time to chase down everyone’s details. 
  • If you are missing any of those things, the Virtual Door Person will email you back asking for the missing requirements. 
  • If your membership is current (or we looked up your payment) we will send you details for the Virtual Class to include some terms and conditions, and technical instructions for logging in or dialing in (these are sent up to class time).
  • For a Tutorial on how this service works, you can view that here. 

A current List of our Reciprocal Clubs: 

31 March, 2020

Don’t forget that APEX has supplies and food for those who may need it. View our Community Post for more information.

March 30th, 2020

In light of our continued health emergency, it is becoming more and more urgent that we help people with their mental health needs as well. APEX is working on a more frequent social outlet for our members, please stay tuned for updates this week.

March 29th, 2020

Some additional news. We have launched a new program to support our Vendor partners. The craftsmen, makers, and artisans in our community are taking the cancellation and postponement of events particularly hard. Many of them rely on this income to survive. So, while we are all taking advantage of virtual programming, we are giving them the opportunity to participate!

Ways our Vendor Partners can participate in our Virtual Programming:

  • Present a Tranditional Class about what you make or sell -For Example, a Violet Wand Class featuring the accessories you sell.
  • Come up with a short program about the things you sell-For example-how to choose X or Y toy, or how to use X or Y safely, or how to use X or Y toy in a particular way, and then you can do a tour of YOUR products! These can be shorter programs that are shown before an appropriate Virtual Class, or during Virtual Social events, or can stand alone.
  • We are working on a Vendor Spotlight program! These are short (by design)videos of you and your stuff to keep you in front of our members!

If any of our Vendor Partners are interested in participating, just email, and we will be happy to send you the details.

Don’t forget to visit the Bizarre Bazaar Vendor list to support the Vendors who support our club!

March 25th 2020

Some news to share! We are filling the calendar with Virtual Programs (Red Text), and have even made some offerings that are open to everyone. We are all doing everything we can to keep you engaged and interested while everyone feels so disconnected.

If you are interested in teaching a Virtual Class please email:

APEX is remianing closed except for some Limited Social Opportunities, and while for our first one we only saw a handful of people, we believe this to be a service for our Members. However, it is a much better idea to stay home.

Need to renew or want to support APEX?

Visit our Temporary Remote Payment Gateway here:

To keep updated on Covid-19 and your risk, we recommend going with reliable sources such as

The CDC and the World Health Organization.  Locally, check Arizona Department of Health Services Maricopa Country Public Health or Pinal County Public Health, and check your city websites like PhoenixTempeMesa, etc.


Ways to Volunteer in March!


APEX is entirely staffed by volunteers. Whatever you are interested in doing, we certainly need your help!

You can reach management about Volunteer Opportunities by emailing, or you can give us more information by filling out the Volunteer Form.

The list below includes training opportunities, volunteer opportunities, and ways you can pitch in based on the time you have available.

New Member Orientation Team Training Tuesday, March 1st.

APEX is committed to providing lots of quality orientations in 2020. With that goal in mind the New Member Orientation Team will be crucial to our success! An hour of our time creates successful new members, and helps each of us feel more responsible for our club.   Each month we will have a New Member Orientation Team Training. Please visit the APEX Calendar to find the training for this month, or email

Door Training Tuesday, March 24th

Don’t forget…APEX has over 500 events each year, and to accomplish this, we need Door Volunteers! There is a Basic Door Volunteer Training each month on rotating days, so we can accommodate the needs of volunteers. Door Volunteers are the front lines of our club, and you can be part of the “Mission Control” at APEX! Door Volunteers have at least one additional training opportunity each month, so that they can sharpen their skills and be the best versions of themselves! Please visit the APEX Calendar to find the training for this month, or email

DM Training Wednesday, March 3rd

APEX has almost 100 play events each year! To maintain quality events, we need DM Volunteers! There is a Basic DM Volunteer Training each month or rotating days in order to accommodate everyone. DM Volunteers are a vital part of our club!  DMs also have at least one additional training each month in various skills so that we are constantly putting tools in the tool box! Please visit the APEX Calendar to find the training for this month, or email

Dust Busting Crew Sunday, March 29th

We have a lot to do after Bizarre Bazaar!

We will be doing general cleaning, moping, dusting, changing air filters and other fun and amazing things.

Come hang out, listen to some music, and make our Dungeon SHINE!!!!!

Can’t wait to see you all there!!!


For questions email:

Other ways to Volunteer

Pitch in when you come to the club. You can always clean up, grab a broom, take out the trash, bring ice, clean up the kitchen, straighten up the bathrooms while you’re in there, or just look for things needing done and do them. 🙂  Ask a volunteer to show you where things are!

Keep your eye on the APEX Group on There are often calls for spare hands to do big setups and other projects at the club!

Glass Cleaning: All the windows/doors at the front of the space need to be cleaned, and all of the mirrors need to be polished.

Trash Cans: Need to be taken outside once a month and cleaned inside and out.

Ash tray: Needs to be emptied once each month and new sand put in. The new sand is in the storage closet!

Outside: Both the parking lot in front of our building and the alley behind our space needs to be swept and picked up.

Tablecloths: Need to be washed once a week.

Other laundry: Pillows and throws need to be washed once a month.

Supplies: Someone to keep track of supplies including things like coffee and paper products so we never run out!





Below are some resources for those of you who are new to APEX, or new to BDSM/Kink.  We have included where to find things on our webpage as well as some outside resources.

What is APEX?

APEX is a private, 501(c)7 membership club entirely operated by the membership of APEX.  As a volunteer organization, 100% of our proceeds go right back into the club, and every part of our structure is transparent to our membership. Our club culture is about getting out what you put in, and most people find a way to volunteer that they enjoy. To learn more about volunteering, click here.

Who are APEX Members?

APEX Members are a diverse collection of people from all walks of life, orientations, nationalities, genders, ages, and lifestyle choices.  The magic of APEX is that there is no “mold” you must adhere to in order to join.  We all follow the same rules, and we all support other members in their choices. At any given time there are 700-900 members at APEX and approximately 350 you will see on a regular basis.

Becoming a Member has links to everything you need to know about our membership and pricing structure as well as the process to becoming a new member including What you need to bringThe ProcessIf You Would Like More Information Before Joining,
Membership and Orientation Opportunities, and Membership Options.

The APEX Calendar will show you Orientations as well as all of the events we have in a given month. APEX has over 500 events each year, you are sure to find things that interest you. A guide to  the various classes, events, and attendance opportunities can be found at About APEX Events.

APEX on Social Media: You can find APEX on, and Below are the pages if you prefer to copy/paste instead of click. is a social networking sight for kinky people. You can find lots of good information there to help you on your way.

What to wear to APEX? There is a post How To Dress.

Events for those new to APEX or New to BDSM:

  • Dungeon 101: An Introduction to Play Parties and some cultural information to help you feel more comfortable.
  • APEX Skills 101: An introduction to specific skills/information
  • APEX Skills 202: A hands-on workshop where you try specific skills.
  • APEX 303: Skills: Edgier subjects
  • New Member Social: A social opportunity for those new to the club who would like to get to know some folks who are also new. You will get some handy information about events and culture as well.

You can also see a guide to APEX Programming on our ABOUT APEX EVENTS Page. 

To learn what to expect at a Saturday Night Party, Click Here.

How to be a Non-Interfering Spectator

We hope this information has helped you feel more comfortable with APEX and with your choice to be interested in BDSM.  After you have read through all of this, if you still have questions please email: and someone will get back to you within one (1) day.

Welcome to APEX, and we look forward to meeting you.


APEX Bizarre Bazaar and Community Open house March 28th 2020


The BIZARRE BAZAAR is an amazing collection of Vendors,  edgey demonstrations and performances, and fun! Learn more about the Arizona Power Exchange, The Valleys Premier Source for BDSM education, social opportunities, and support. Learn about Lifestyle Organizations in our Valley, see some over the top demonstrations and performances provided by our local community, meet like-minded people, and see the largest collection of quality vendors assembled in Arizona.


The Bizarre Bazaar is a taste of the possibilities! This year will provide edgy and extreme demonstrations and performance art designed to let you imagine what might be possible for you!

Keep your eyes on the SCHEDULE PAGE for the most up-to-date information!

While the Kink Karnival is our 101 level demonstrations, the Bizarre Bizarre needs a PhD! Come and see the outer edges of our community. What’s possible in your world?

For more details on our demo schedule, please visit the SCHEDULE PAGE.

STD/STI Testing and Health Information:

APEX Cares about our community. Native Health will provide HIV/ Hepatitis Integrated Care Services. NATIVE HEALTH and NHW Community Health Center provides no cost HIV/AIDS and Hepatitis C screening. They also provide support services, counseling, case management, and prevention services as part of the HIV Integrated Care Program. To learn more about them, visit Native Health and NHW Community Health Center.


While APEX supports our community and throws amazing parties, the mission of APEX is heavily geared towards education. Fulfilling that portion of our mission doesn’t stop at the Bizarre Bazaar! We will offer a number of mini-classes on subjects like consent, boundaries, trying new things safely, and owning your choices. Keep your eyes on the Bizarre Bazaar Schedule for more information.


We have lots of new vendors, as well as many of the vendors we have come to love. Check the latest list on the Vendor Page


The Bizarre Bazaar is an edgy event, but the core purpose is to educate about our Community and lifestyle. We couldn’t accurately represent our lifestyle without bringing together those who represent our community in a meaningful way.

Please see the Community Page for Community Groups that will be represented at the 2020 Bizarre Bazaar.

The Member Lounge: 

We will have a space dedicated to our members to relax and get out of the crowd. The Member Lounge will be open from 10am-4pm, and will provide a quiet place for our Members.

For up-to-the-minute information on the Bizarre Bazaar, please visit the web page.

Tickets to the Bizarre Bazaar are $10.00. All Access Members get into the party for free. Pay Per Event members can purchase presale tickets for both the BB & Party for $20.00 HERE


This event is intended for adults over 18 years old, and will have adult content that may be offensive. Please do not attend this event if you are offended by adult subjects, nudity, and adult language.

Please RSVP HERE. (Not Required for attendance)


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