November is Transgender Awareness Month


The month of November celebrates the transgender and gender nonconforming communities and raises awareness for the community through education and advocacy activities. This year, it will encompass vigils and other gatherings around the country. As an integral component, the month also includes the Transgender Day of Remembrance, which memorializes those who have been murdered.

APEX has a large and vibrant transgender and gender non-conforming community, and APEX committed to continuing our investments in the transgendered and gender non conforming communities by providing support through education, ally training, policies and programs, and maintaining our commitment to diversity and inclusion.

APEX will be featuring a Ted Talk speaker in November in order to educate and further support our transgendered and gender non-conforming friends. Read more about BEYOND PINK AND BLUE: GENDER IDENTITY AND THE TRANSGENDER EXPERIENCE with Decker Moss and Joelle Guymon.

Every November, APEX has a fundraiser for Trans Spectrum Arizona.

Trans Spectrum of Arizona (TSAZ) Mission Statement: To Empower each other to cultivate a safe and welcoming community for Trans and Gender Non-Conforming individuals and allies. TSAZ will be seeking out new resources and partnerships in the Greater Phoenix community. Follow us on Facebook for updates, info on meetings and ways to get involved and donate. 

Ways to support Trans Spectrum of Arizona

Buy a button (proceeds to Trans Spectrum of Arizona:

Buy a pride or ally t-shirt at our TeeSpring store:

There is also a drawing for a terrific basket at APEX! Help us to let Trans Spectrum of Arizona know we value their work in the community!

About Transgender Awareness Month

The month of November celebrates the transgender and gender nonconforming communities and raises awareness for the community through education and advocacy activities. This year, it will encompass vigils and other gatherings around the country. As an integral component, the month also includes the Transgender Day of Remembrance, which memorializes those who have been murdered.

TDOR was inspired by Rita Hester, a black trans woman who was brutally murdered in 1998 and whose death echoed across the country. The day was founded almost one year after Hester’s death by trans activist Gwendolyn Ann Smith on November 20, 1999 marking this year as it’s 20th anniversary. 

In 2019, 23 deaths have been reported from anti-transgender and transmisgonoir violence, 20 of those deaths were Black people.





November brings us a spectacular Ted talk speaker to APEX! As part of our ongoing effort in Diversity and Inclusion, and to help each of us be better allies, we are excited to present to you Decker Moss and Joelle Guymon!

When many of us grew up, gender seemed simple: we were either girls or boys. Now, terms like “gender identity” have us questioning what we thought we knew, blurring the lines between pink and blue. Thanks to celebs like Caitlyn Jenner and Chaz Bono, almost everyone’s heard of the “T” in LGBTQ. But what does “transgender” really mean? Is gender more complicated than male and female? And, why should it matter to you? In this presentation, we’ll talk gender, gender identity and the transgender experience—from the basic terminology to the complexities of transitioning (and how to support someone who does). Bring an open mind and leave with an inclusive foundation of knowledge, perfect for navigating today’s shifting gender landscape.

Presenter Bios

Decker Moss is a two-time TEDx speaker, an LGBTQ advocate and a fraternal twin who was born female—according to the doctors, at least. Now, he’s an out and proud transgender man who’s passionate about using his personal story and lived experience to spark positive social change in the conversation around diversity, inclusion, and gender. Decker is the co-founder of 6stride, a training and consulting company focused on diversity and inclusion. He leads awareness trainings at corporations, educational institutions, conferences and other organizations on topics ranging from gender identity and transgender basics to in-depth best practices for LGBTQ allies, building inclusive workplaces and more. He lives in central Phoenix with his super rad husband, Ethan.

Joelle Guymon is a Certified Diversity Professional passionate about education, inclusion and helping every human find connection and belonging. Joelle is the co-founder of 6stride, a training and consulting company committed to moving the diversity and inclusion conversation forward. In addition to leading D&I presentations to corporations and organizations of all types, she’s also an expert in Early Childhood Education and proudly serves as Co-Chair for an LGBTQ Employee Advisory Group where she develops programs, trainings and resources to promote workplace inclusion, support employees, and educate parents, clients and company leaders on the LGBTQ experience. Joelle is a proud lesbian who lives in central Phoenix with her amazing wife of 16 years, Rona.

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October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month


Ways to Support the Cause this month:

1. Attend Allyship Training


This training will look at ways to effectively advocate for survivors of sexual and domestic violence including how to be a good ally and actions everyone can take to prevent these forms of violence. We will also explore healing from abuse, intervention techniques, and state and local resources. Participants will become aware of the numerous advocacy skills, allyship opportunities, and ways to speak out against sexual and domestic violence.

About the Presenters:

The Arizona Coalition Against Domestic Violence was formed in 1980 so that concerned citizens and professionals could unite in a statewide organization to end domestic violence. In 2013, the coalition became the designated dual coalition to address both sexual and domestic violence thus becoming the Arizona Coalition to End Sexual and Domestic Violence.

2. Donation Drive in October

APEX will be a collection point for Arizona Coalition to end Domestic and Sexual Violence.

Things they need: New/unopened items are preferred for sanitary reasons.

  • full size hair care products (shampoo, conditioner, and styling products for diverse hair types)
  • full size toiletry items (lotion, body wash, soap, etc.)
  • razors, shaving cream
  • hair brushes
  • pads, tampons
  • baby formula
  • diapers and baby wipes
  • minute phones and recharge cards
  • makeup
  • household cleaning items
  • paper towels, toilet paper, tissue
  • craft supplies for kids and adults (ex: coloring books)
Buy a purple ribbon at the front desk for $1.00 to show your support, or donate directly in the box at the front desk.

Let’s support and show we care!


IntRoducing The Collective

FacebooktwitterIn an ongoing commitment to education, APEX is bringing a series of events open to the entire (18+) community in order to enhance the events, clubs, and groups in our Valley. These events will be relevant and timely, and are designed for everyone into kink, BDSM or power exchange in the Phoenix area.

Some upcoming topics for these events will include:

The Consent Collective 
For our first event The Collective will focus on consent issues in honor of Consent Month. Consent is a varied and complex concept in our world, and doesn’t look the same for each relationship, community, group, or event. The Consent Collective is created for our entire community to dissect and discuss the issue of Consent. Phoenix is a large city with varied and diversified needs. Let’s come together to identify our needs as it relates to consent, so we can all learn from each other.

We will begin with a town hall kind of session where we get to know each other while we identify and discuss various consent issues. We will then break up into groups to discuss those various topics. After our break out sessions we will come back together to discuss the conclusions of each break out session. The goal is to help each person, group, and community to further explore the concept of consent and learn from each other to make our city the best it can be!

The Diversity Collective
This spring, The Collective will explore Diversity and Inclusion.
We will provide resources on:
• Identifying diversity and inclusion issues
• How to advocate the inclusion, equality, and diversity of events, clubs, and groups.
• How to promote the integration of diversity issues in policies and practices
• How to accommodate and include groups of various needs and
• How your event, club or group can further include and accommodate people who may not be comfortable at your event, club or group today.

The Event Collective
The event collective will address the needs of events, clubs or groups who hold events. Experts will be brought in to address:
• Writing a good consent policy, mission statement, and rules
• What insurance matters apply to your event, club, or group
• What legal resources does your event, club or group need
• Finances: Transparency and confidence
• Social Media issues and how to manage them and leverage various platforms
• Communication to your event attendees, club or group

To keep these events focused on education, the proceeds of The Collective events’ will go to benefit the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom.

About the NCSF
The NCSF is committed to creating a political, legal and social environment in the US that advances equal rights for consenting adults who engage in alternative sexual and relationship expressions.

The NCSF aims to advance the rights of, and advocate for consenting adults in the BDSM-Leather-Fetish, Swing, and Polyamory Communities.

We pursue our vision through direct services, education, advocacy, and outreach, in conjunction with our partners, to directly benefit these communities.

You can join the fight with the NCSF by becoming a member. The NCSF has a membership level to accommodate everyone. Coalition Partners (for organizations or businesses), Supporting Members (for individuals or organizations), and Individual Members (for individual people).

About the Arizona Power Exchange
The Arizona Power Exchange, is the Valleys Premier Source for BDSM education, social opportunities, and support. As we celebrate 31 years, APEX is even more dedicated to providing services and education to members and the larger Phoenix community.

The Arizona Power Exchange (APEX) is a not-for-profit corporation that provides education, social opportunities, and support for adults who are interested in Bondage and Discipline; Dominance and Submission; and Sadomasochism (BDSM) who value individual responsibility, integrity, confidentiality, and respect for self and others. APEX provides on-going forums for education and practice of BDSM and opportunities for like-minded individuals to socialize, explore and learn in a respectful and dignified environment. APEX welcomes all sexual orientations, consensual relationships, and risk-aware BDSM and sexual practices.

To learn more about the Arizona Power Exchange visit the APEX WebpageFacebooktwitter

Welcome Christine as our APEX Accessibility Coordinator!


APEX is dedicated to the inclusion of all its members. In recent years, we have made several changes so APEX could be more accessible to those members requiring accommodations for a variety of differing abilities. Some of these changes have included widening doorways, installing ramps at the exterior doors, and clearing a space at the voyeur room window to accommodate wheelchairs.

We have now decided to take an even more proactive approach to accessibility options within the space. To facilitate that growth, we’ve developed the position of Accessibility Coordinator. Please join us in welcoming Christine into that position. She will be focused on attainable solutions that will help APEX be more welcoming and accessible to those with different needs and abilities.

We are counting on membership input to discover, design and implement practical solutions. If there is an accommodation beyond infrastructure that you think would enhance the experience of someone who may have different needs, please send Christine an email.

While our status as a 501(c)7 organization exempts us from ADA compliance, we are committed to providing each of our members as full an experience as possible. Every suggestion and idea will be considered, but within the restrictions of our building and budget, not every idea may come to fruition.

You can reach Christine at to share your ideas. Watch the Concierge system and social media for updates!


Breath Play Intensive: Saturday, July 27th


Building on my Monday night discussion and demo come on down to APEX for a more in depth discussion of the physiological and psychological ins and outs of this very hot but very serious form of play.  First half of the Intensive will be an in depth lecture of how and why we breathe and what happens when we f*** with that.  The second half will be a series of examples of breath play including a water boarding scene.


$6 for Pay Per Event Members, FREE for All Access Members

To Learn More about APEX Membership Please visit the website:

Please RSVP HERE. (Not Required for attendance)


Happy Pride Month


From the Library of Congress

Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender and Queer (LGBTQ) Pride Month is currently celebrated each year in the month of June to honor the 1969 Stonewall Uprising in Manhattan. The Stonewall Uprising was a tipping point for the Gay Liberation Movement in the United States. In the United States the last Sunday in June was initially celebrated as “Gay Pride Day,” but the actual day was flexible. In major cities across the nation the “day” soon grew to encompass a month-long series of events. Today, celebrations include pride parades, picnics, parties, workshops, symposia and concerts, and LGBTQ Pride Month events attract millions of participants around the world. Memorials are held during this month for those members of the community who have been lost to hate crimes or HIV/AIDS. The purpose of the commemorative month is to recognize the impact that lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender individuals have had on history locally, nationally, and internationally.

In 1994, a coalition of education-based organizations in the United States designated October as LGBT History Month. In 1995, a resolution passed by the General Assembly of the National Education Association included LGBT History Month within a list of commemorative months. National Coming Out Day (October 11), as well as the first “March on Washington” in 1979, are commemorated in the LGBTQ community during LGBT History Month.

Executive and Legislative Documents

The Law Library of Congress has compiled guides to commemorative observations, including a comprehensive inventory of the Public Laws, Presidential Proclamations and congressional resolutions related to Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual Transgender and Queer Pride Month.

In Arizona, our Pride Parade is in April, but we still celebrate Pride all month long. Look for local listings for all the amazing things happening in June. The New Times has an article on ways “to
show a little extra love for the LGBTQ community this month”.


NEW! APEX E.D.G.E.-Little’s


Third Sunday of the Month at 4pm

There is a Little inside many of us. Whether it’s coloring, tea parties or dress up, each of us Littles have an activity that brings us back to that fun, kid-like nature we enjoy so much.

For these reasons, we’ve dedicated an EDGE group to Littles! Join us to learn and experience life in this space! Each month we will theme our meeting to cater to each type of little. Everyone is welcome to our EDGE group, but we would like everyone to show up from a Littles headspace to help facilitate the objective of the group.Feel free to send any questions about our group to Deena:

E.D.G.E. Groups:
Extended Development, Growth, & Education (E.D.G.E.). An E.D.G.E. group is made up of APEX members who all share a common interest in learning, teaching, and developing skills. This is a peer-to-peer learning environment that facilitates practice and sharing knowledge in a particular area.

Educational groups will be open to all APEX members who would like to join. If you are interested in beginning an E.D.G.E. group, please e-mail

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$6 for Pay Per Event Members, FREE for All Access Members

To Learn More about APEX Membership Please visit the website:

Please RSVP HERE. For our First Meeting! (Not Required for attendance)


Wet-N-Messy Party


June 29th, 2019

Hot, cool, sticky, slippery, wet. We’re going to get wet and messy at APEX! Several pools will be filled with lots of fun things for your enjoyment! Paint flogging, Wax play, liquid latex, sploshing…how will you get your wet and messy on? Bring out all those messy ideas…

There will be regular Dungeon space for those who prefer that, but a guaranteed good time and hot scenes of messy play will be available for your voyeuristic enjoyment.

The Orbeez pool will be back, as well as some other ways to immerse yourself.

APEX will be providing a Baked Potato Bar, but you are very welcome to bring something to share.  As always, water will be provided.


$15 for Pay Per Event Members, FREE for All Access Members

While we will remain open until 1am, the doors will close at 10:30pm so our Volunteers can enjoy the party as well. Annual All Access Members in good standing can let themselves in until closing.

To Learn More about APEX Membership Please visit the website

*Please note: You must be a member at least 24 hours PRIOR to this event to attend. No orientations will be done at this event.

Please RSVP HERE. (Not Required for attendance)




In the ongoing effort to bring diverse and exciting programming to our members, apex will be introducing a new series of events! Our “apex experiences” series will focus on all-day events, geared toward using our space in new ways!

Our first apex experience will feature mummification. You have seen it online, or at a Monday night educational event, and now you are ready to try it out yourself!

In advance of the APEX Experience on Mummification, we will have a short social to make everyone more comfortable.  This is your opportunity to buy your tickets, learn about the process, and meet your wrapping team and other participants in order to make you more comfortable at the event.

If you are new to APEX, the 6:30pm orientation is your last opportunity to join prior to the APEX Experience on Mummification

Included in the cost of the event, apex will provide all of the materials (cling wrap, duct tape, towels, sheets, massage tables, ext) as well as a meal to end our day together. All you need to bring is you (and maybe a change of clothes and a toy bag for the APEX Dungeon Party later)!

Doors open at 11:00am. We will start by going over safety and the agenda for the day. Our wrapping team will begin at noon, and attendees will then have up to 5 hours to lie, fully or partially mummified. Our team of spotters will check in with you, and you can choose how much or how little assistance or intervention you require. Attendees can request to be unwrapped, or break out at their own pace.


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